I set up personal time with my doctor at least monthly although there have been times where it has been weekly. I schedule it on my calendar and I make sure that I don’t forget or plan anything that might interfere with our meetings.
That morning I make sure to shower, shave my legs, do my hair, makeup, and even wear my cute clothes. During our time together he asks me questions and I try to be as honest as possible and let him into my soul, and my mind. I tell how I think and divulge my deepest fears and my problems.
He has seen my mind and my body, ALL of my body. I trust him to know what and where he needs to see and feel. I anticipate at any of our meetings one or both of these may happen so I am prepared. I trust he won't point out my stretch marks or make me feel bad for my less than perfect body.
When I tell my kids I am going to the doctor they don’t ask questions they just get it. Today though I decided to do my hair and try to look nice for my husband and my daughter asks me “Why are you curling your hair?” I say to her “For dad.” and she is confused so I explain “I am not going anywhere I just want dad to come home and see that I look pretty.” My daughter does not get it. I have nowhere to go and nobody to impress but when did I stop trying to impress my husband? When did pajamas and messy hair become the norm?
Thankfully for me my husband loves me no matter what I am wearing and thinks I am beautiful even when I look like a big mess. I don’t think this means I should stop trying to impress him just because it is okay if I don’t. Shaving, showering, doing hair, makeup, and dressing nice for our spouse should start to matter even if we are staying home and he will be the only one to see us.
We need to set apart time for our husbands and make sure that it is a priority that will be good for our health and well being, as well as theirs!
I think as women we need to ask ourselves do we still let our husband into our mind and soul? Divulge our struggles, our worries, and imperfections? Have we stopped believing that they will be with us for better or worse and help us get to a better place?
Have we stopped trusting our spouse to love us enough to see our not so young and perfect bodies and not be focused on our stretch marks, extra weight, or even lack of weight in wanted areas? Do we trust him to touch and see knowing he will do so without judgement?
It is time we start treating our husbands better than our doctors; trusting them more, needing them more, and making time for them more. It is time to end our affairs with our doctors and put that effort where it matters most; into our marriage.