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Saturday, May 10, 2014

A new view on Mother's Day

     I don't usually enjoy mother's day and it is not on my list of favorite holidays. Maybe because women are not used to being spoiled and taken care of, maybe because I am not use to just sitting back and waiting for the holiday to occur without any plans or obligations coming from myself. Or maybe because it seems I focus on how hard I work, all I sacrifice, and all the hard stuff.

     Being a mother is hard work, I know that, but it is also one of the most rewarding things I have ever done. I use to go into mother's day with the idea that I should be thanked and I should be rewarded for all of my hard work and sacrifice. Not anymore. This year I made a choice to celebrate being a mom. To celebrate that I have the privilege to be a mother to my six beautiful children.  

     This attitude has really changed everything for me. I think this is what mother's day should really be about remembering the gift that it is to be a mother. I had a friend who told me she would buy each of her children something on mother's day because it was because of them she was able to be a mother. I loved the idea of seeing mother's day in that light. I gave a lot of thought to what I could buy my children to express how grateful I am to be their mom. Nothing really ever felt like it gave the right message that I wanted to send.

     Then the idea came to me that what I could give them was better than something wrapped, it was my time, my time not dedicated to cleaning, cooking, or all the other much needed but mundane tasks us mothers do but instead my time just having fun and being with them. Laughing more, and enjoying them more. 

     This year I decided to take them bowling which is something I love but hardly ever get to do. One day they would never remember a little toy I bought them but I like to think they will say "Hey mom remember when we went bowling and you kicked dad's butt?" and we can laugh about our good memories together. 

     On mother's day instead of thinking about all I clean and sacrifice for my children I am going to remember all the beauty and richness they give to my life.







2 comments:

  1. What a great idea. I cherish Mother's Day actually. I never expect gifts or anything, but I do cherish the little things from the kids that are handmade. My love also makes an effort to show me he appreciates me for all of the sacrifices I make for our family, and that is nice... but It is not an obligation.

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    1. That is awesome! I am so glad I have also found a way to enjoy and truly cherish mother's day too!

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